My Mother's Nylon Feet

I can well understand

I can well understand

A sentence that is all too quickly and too often expressed understanding and empathy. But, he does it? Probably only in extremely rare cases it is, at least in the approach, tentatively serious.
There he sits for example on the table and reads the newspaper, his wife comes in ". My God I do today hurts all the bones, I feel like by the wolf turned" And he answered from the depths of his paper: "The I can well understand! Is this for real? No. He feigns compassion and understanding really just to have peace. How often complains his wife about her back pain and he repeatedly asserts that he could understand that. He has never had back pain, but to reassure his wife he shot down this phrase and it is usually quite satisfied that he belongs ever has.
And as we come to the gist of the matter. Can he even understand what it means to have back pain. No, but why he says this then he could understand it well? He wants to be left alone. And so it often goes in life. We fall in internal embarrassment when we meet people we voice their distress over their destiny, throw out their pain and discomfort and her heart. And react in our helplessness then with platitudes.
The old Chinese proverb contains a profound truth: You can understand your fellow man until you've gone a few miles in his shoes. But what should we do in such cases at all? Would not it be more honest if he would say: "I'm sorry I've never had back pain and I can not imagine how it feels."
I think we show more understanding if we fail to do such meaningless statements and where we are in a position without being asked to help with waking eyes. Would not it be comforting and loving in my example, if he would fold up his newspaper, would, and take his wife in the arm would?
If we are honest, it's almost always impossible to feel the situation of another human being to and understand. We may be able to consult a similar structure draw in which we have felt this or that or felt or experienced, yet still it was then our feelings and our experiences and it is difficult for us to see if we have just seen and felt, like our fellow human being. Unfortunately or fortunately, there are no instruments that can measure with absolute objectivity pain and suffering.
My suggestion: If we are not out of deep, inner conviction can say: "The I can well understand, "should we refrain ..... And I can understand it really well!